Monday / April 22

Mentor: Have One, Be One

The role mentoring plays in our lives has been generating a lot of dialogue recently. I love the fact that the word “mentor” can be a noun (an experienced and trusted advisor) or a verb (advise or train someone) as I believe it’s necessary for individual growth to both have one and be one.

I can clearly state that I would not be in the position I am today nor have enjoyed some of my successes were it not for a number of mentors who either inserted themselves into my life or appeared when I needed them the most. Some of you who have attended my presentations or seen my TEDx talk, “I am the Future,” know that there was struggle during my younger years. Some of my earliest mentors were educators. Mr. Springer took me under his wing early on and nurtured what he termed “my ability to lead” despite my efforts to hide my poverty by being disengaged. He knew I didn’t always have lunch and he always had something for me. More than nourishing my body, he nourished my soul. I wasn’t ready for it back then but it resonates today. Ms. Fainsilber was another teacher who saw beyond the current conditions and would regularly ask me when I would be ready to display the “real me” instead of the lousy imitation I was showing. She pushed me despite my pushback. Other educators played similar significant roles at key times as I was finding me.

Although she won’t want to see this in print (and I’ll acknowledge that by being brief), my wife really was the catalyst for much of the growth I experienced. She helped me to find myself but would never consider herself a mentor. We’ve grown up together, and beyond the people we were when we first met in a university dorm. Taking risks and seizing opportunities has allowed me to meet some incredible people. Regular readers of my blog will know the impact Wayne Hulley had on my life and how I carry many of his thoughts with me as I work with colleagues today. Another significant mentor was Stanley French, who also recently passed away. He cultivated skills in me that I did not know were present and helped me to hone my craft as a writer. He was a great sounding board who knew exactly when to ask the right question and when to just sit back and let me talk it out. I will miss his presence in my life.

That is also the thing that happens as we age. Mentors may leave us before we’re ready to let go. Recently I had a chance to spend time with another former teacher who reappeared in my life when I became a school leader. Nick Parker-Jervis (PJ) was one of my first teachers when I moved across the country at the age of fourteen. He had little time for my “cool act” and plenty of time to remind me of what I could accomplish. Again, I wasn’t ready to embrace that as an eighth grade student. However, when I entered my first leadership role and became involved with the principal’s organization, I was delighted to see my former teacher in a key role with that group. Despite admonishing me for making him feel old, he took me under his wing and provided insights that still resonate today. When we meet these days it is such an easy and comfortable connection. I am fortunate to have people like this in my life and this reminds me that we equally have a requirement to be a mentor to others.

I was reminded of this during a recent visit to a school. After visiting some classes and debriefing with the team, the principal walked me out to my car. He expressed appreciation for the stretch goals we had talked about earlier and for pushing him beyond being comfortable. He then asked if I’d be willing to mentor him as he continued his growth. I am fortunate to work with a number of colleagues and support their growth (which also supports my growth!).

Additionally, as educators we are all in roles where we have great capacity to mentor students and new colleagues. In a report entitled “The Mentoring Effect” commissioned by MENTOR, the national mentoring partnership, some key points were highlighted:

  • Youth with mentors are more likely to report higher engagement in positive activities.
  • Young people with mentors report higher educational aspirations and matriculation into post secondary education, as well as greater engagement in positive activities.
  • At-risk young adults who had a mentor are more likely to:
    • aspire to enroll in and graduate from college than those who did not have a mentor (76 percent versus 56 percent).
    • report participating regularly in sports or extracurricular activities than those who did not have a mentor (67 percent versus 37 percent).
    • hold a leadership position in a club, sports team, school council or other group than those who did not have a mentor (51 percent versus 22 percent).
    • volunteer regularly in their communities than those who did not have a mentor (48 percent versus 27).

This information should be leaping off the page right now and grabbing each reader’s attention in a way that compels each of us to find a young person that will benefit from additional guidance. Every school is packed with students that will see the benefit. I’m looking forward to connecting with more young men and women as I visit schools and spend time with students. And I know I’ll benefit from their wisdom, which is the collateral bonus that comes from engaging with others.

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Tom Hierck’s experiences as a teacher, administrator, district leader, department of education project leader, and executive director have provided a unique context for his education philosophy. Hierck is a compelling presenter, infusing his message of hope with strategies culled from the real world. His dynamic presentations explore the importance of positive learning environments and the role of assessment to improve student learning. He is the co-author of RTI Is a Verb. Schedule an on-site or virtual consultation, seminar, or workshop with Hierck today!

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